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Waiting

I associate waiting with bad things.

Waiting for the train unnerves me.

Waiting rooms are a waste of time.

Waiting for hubby past the time he said he would be ready? Annoying!

Waiting for news, a torture.

I have been waiting for a long time for my professional life to kick off. I have been writing about this before, about my feelings of unfulfillment and dissatisfaction. My life is great except for this one thing: my work. I have a great hubby and a beautiful child. My parents are still alive and relatively well for their age. I have travelled the world. I have great friends. But I have no steady work and more aggravating, no life vision and this has started to get to me lately. You see, I am in my 30s and I feel this is the time to work and make a future for myself and my wee one. If I don’t work now, when I have all my capacities, when will I work?? I also feel that I can do so much!! I have studied for so many years.I read the combined contents of at least a library. I have so much knowledge I could put to use. And I am passionate about so many things. Generational and educational issues. Child exploitation. Women issues. Poverty. Illiteracy.

I am also a believer. I believe I was created for a purpose. I believe my life(professional life included) came with a pre-determined plan from above. I believe I am precious in God’s eyes and kingdom and I have a role to play. I believe the passion that thunders in my heart about changing generational patterns and providing meaningful education for children from one-parent families is God-fuelled. I believe the yearning in my heart to educate women with low self-esteem in God’s truth and reality comes from Him as well.

I believe I have been equipped and prepared for a time like this. I am just waiting for Him to make everything click and fall into place in this area of my life as well, just like He has done in all the other areas.Meanwhile, all I can do is pray, hope and wait some more because as Lamentations 3:25 says “The LORD is good to those who wait for Him.”

I will duly inform you when my waiting is over.

International Day of the Girl

I feel very honoured to be part of the very first ever International Day of the Girl.

I heard of International Day of the Girl for the first time this morning. One of my friends on Facebook put up this link for a new website Too Young to Wed and it caught my attention as it had the picture of two eight-year old girls and their 29-year old husbands on its landing page. The subject stirs me every time, as you might already know if you have been following my blog for a while and read my review on a Thousand Splendid Suns and Harmattan.

So when an email came in shortly after from Mumsnet Bloggers regarding the International Day of the Girl I knew I had to tie these two separate events and write a post about girls who don’t have a voice or a choice. I did a bit of research and found a lot on the subject. I would like to mention here the very interesting project of 10×10  “a feature film, Girl Rising, and a social action campaign”as presented on their website and the Because I am a Girl campaign by the Plan that supports investment in girls’education.

I have a nearly three-year old girl. She has dreams already. Dreams of being a ballerina. And a teacher.

And we have dreams and desires for her. Dreams of Emma growing into a sensible and wise woman. We desire her to get into a good nursery, a school with dedicated teachers and later on a grammar school where she is encouraged to learn and reach her full academic potential. We dream of her going to university. We dream of her being loved and cherished by a man who will treat her with reverence and respect. We dream of Emma being happy and fulfilled in every possible way. But above all, we have dreams of her growing up to be what God has designed her to be: a ballerina or a teacher or a social worker and we commit to be here for her and support her whatever her dreams and desires will be.

I am writing on behalf of all the three-year olds whose lives have been set of a tangent they will have little say in choosing. Girls who are perceived as barter goods and sexual objects. Girls whose only precarious knowledge will be in reproduction and raising children while they are still children themselves.  Girls for whom education will be a mythical concept and never a reality. Girls who will be always victims and never victors.  Their reality is not our reality because we were lucky enough to be born in a “civilised” country where human rights are a given, not a chimera, a fanciful mental illusion or fabrication. Our hearts long to feel the fulfilment we were designed to feel when helping our fellow human being yet we live our lives too far removed from a reality that’s only 12 hours away from us by plane. These little girls, these rising generations need our help. What are we going to do about it?

Image courtesy of the Plan.

My baby is no longer a baby

This summer has brought amazing changes in Emma. Not only does she talk but she forms her own thoughts and voices her opinions. Not only does she love other children but she is pursuing socialising opportunities with a passion. Not only is she polite but she is also kind and compassionate and fun to be with. Not only does she love being read to but she loves “reading” to herself and to anyone she cares about(Giagia had the privilege to be read to the entire Oxford Reading Tree collection when we visited at the weekend).

I an proud to be her mummy. Proud to hear people who haven’t seen her all summer commenting on how independent she has become. How considerate she is and how smart. I know that this summer’s challenges were worthwhile when I see what a well-behaved and sensible little girl she has become. It was worth putting my dreams of personal fulfilment on hold for Emma’s sake. I love this little woman and I never thought that three years ago when she entered our lives with an ever so serious little face that our lives would change for so much better!

“This blog post has been written as an entry into the Tots100 competition in association with Boots Mother and Baby

 

Greece: a country of dichotomies

For almost three months while we were in Greece I kept thinking: “I need to write a post on Greece as a dichotomy country, as I have seen it as a resident, not a mere visitor.”  I never got around to do it. We’re leaving in two hours for Ireland so this is my last chance.

Why dichotomy country? Because there is such a massive difference between the public and the private. Because there is such a contrast between what people tell you about their salaries being cut and the abundance they still live in. Such a gap between the blessings that God has poured upon this country and the negative attitude and talk you hear everywhere. Let me give you some examples of what shocked, amazed and saddened us for 90 days or so.

1. The private and the public.

The Greeks are so very proud of their apartment buildings, their houses and their gardens, especially those who live in  the North. Extreme care is giving to keeping an aesthetic appearance through micro-irrigation systems, lawn and building maintenance. We have travelled a lot in Europe so I can say without goofing that the average apartment building in Greece exceeds by far the quality and square meters of even those in Switzerland. The public, on the other hand, is at the other extreme pole. Roads are unkempt and pure dangerous many times. The bins are rarely collected on time due to local councils’ lack of funds and subsequent bin men strikes. Compost is literally dumped on the road from the very tidy private gardens of the illustrious Greek citizens.

The Greeks adopt the same attitude when it comes to dealing with people. If it’s on their private territory they go out of their way to make you feel welcomed. They overfeed you and treat you like royalty. They are the best of friends and the kindest neighbours. If they deal with you on public territory you’re…well…unlucky. They are rude and grossly inefficient when in public positions (I came to believe their standard response to ANY query is NO, before they even listen to your request). They honk, beep and curse when driving, to the slightest mistake you make. They are impatient in buses, on the road, in the market (even if you’re pushing a pram). As I said, unlucky.

2. Poverty and waste

I felt for the elderly in Greece. They are the ones who have felt the blow the hardest when the government decided to cut down salaries and pensions. We know there are many people who won’t be able to heat their homes this winter because heating oil has become way too expensive. I felt for the young families where one or both of the parents have lost their jobs and they had been forced to move back  in with their parents. I cried when one day a young woman in the market approached us (and everybody else passing by) asking for help as they were being evicted from their rental accommodation. It broke my heart to see she was carrying a young child who was too ashamed to look people in the eye and had her head burrowed in her mum’s shoulder. It left me shaken because I know how proud Greek people are and I knew this young woman had reached the bottom.

But I was shocked time and again when we went out and saw people leaving heaps of food on the table at the end of a meal. People buying six to eight 10-kilo detergent boxes at the time just because the supermarket had a deal they couldn’t resist. How their sweet shops and bakeries (ARToi, very appropriately called) are amazing artistry display shows and how much of their produce goes in the bin at the end of the day. Looking at the tempting sweet shop window displays, noticing that the only businesses doing well in Greece at the moment are the food shops I had the strong feeling Greek invest their money in the immediate pleasure, not in the everlasting. In palatable goods and not in feeling good about helping each other and their country to progress.

3. Rich country and poor attitudes

Which brings me to the general attitude of poverty of attitude. As I said, we never stepped into a public office without being given the standard “no” first. Even when doing simple things like buying bus tickets we were asked to go back (a “mere” 30-minute drive in 40 degrees) the following day because there was NO way they could release tickets from the day before. When asked why the public service workers just stare. If it hasn’t been done before, they won’t initiate the change, even if it’s as simple as releasing a ticket. The Greeks seem to have lost never had a sense of civilization as in ” the social process whereby societies achieve an advanced stage of development and organization.” From early days they have labelled themselves as democrats; democracy as in “a form of government in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them.” I found functionaries in Greece unwilling to want to help their country attain that advanced stage of organisation because they are only interested in exercising supreme power over the poor people they were appointed to serve.

On the upper hand, Greece is a blessed country. With wonderful scenery, glorious weather and beautiful fresh produce. These alone should suffice (and has for us) to make one grateful and happy to have lived here. Greece has wriggled its way into my heart. I fell in love with it when I was 17 and I came here camping with YWAM. I fantasised in it as an Erasmus student and now I love it with a mature love of understanding and acceptance. I am sorely sorry we have to leave it for a season but I know we will return sooner than later. Because we love it and we can’t be away from it for too long.

Things coming together

I am happy.The happiest I have been in ages. Our lives have taken shape again.

After a very turbulent year during which we lost a house, a business and felt our life shaken to the core in its most significant areas(our relationship with each other, our sense of belonging and security) we have finally found PEACE and CONTENTMENT.

We have learned many precious lessons through all the difficult months:

1. A bigger house doesn’t necessarily equal a happier wife/life. For me, a bigger house by the beach(everyone’s dream, right?) meant being away from friends, from work, from life!

2. When God takes away from you the things that made you feel secure(for my hubby, a prosperous business, for myself, my home) it’s not because He wants to punish you. It’s because He needs to remove the obstacles that prevent you from seeking Him and His ways.

3. Working with your hubby doesn’t work!!For me, anyway. I have learned that it’s better to face my our personal challenges ALONE because solving them gives me a sense of worth I would never achieve by having hubby “protecting” me from the big, bad world…

4. Changes bring along good things! We have made a lot of new friends and have reconnected with good old friends  in Thessaloniki. We are excited to have met so many quality people in such a short space of time and we truly hope these friendships will develop in time as Thessaloniki will be the place we’ll be returning to for holidays and short breaks. We have an apartment here now that we want to put to good use, at the end of the day!!

5. Agreement is most important when married! As you have probably gathered from my previous post, we are both quite strong headed and determined to have OUR own way. But stripped to the bare bone and left without the things that defined us as the selfish ME we have learned to listen more to each other and work towards a common goal.

6. Losing gives one the opportunity to rethink/restructure one’s life in order to achieve happiness. When we lost our home we were given the chance to explore options as we wouldn’t have done before. I knew hubby was missing his home land. He knew I wanted him to readjust his focus from business to family. We were trapped into a false sense of security and a rut, a fruitless busyness we needed to escape. And we did! Relocating to Greece for three months gave hubby the opportunity to realise he wants his home country to be a summer and not a permanent location for the moment. It gave us the chance to spend time in the presence of  dear friends for whom family comes first and who helped us put things into perspective and re-shift our focus. And it made us realise we want to work now that we are young in a country like Ireland, where conditions are favourable so that we can enjoy our old age in a country like Greece, where the sun is predominant :-).  Things have come together for us and I couldn’t be happier!

Life is better when surrounded by friends.