Last weekend, the debate was on, shall we go and see it as a couple or not. I resisted the invitation, hubby was very keen on watching it but the reviews were appalling. So we stayed in and watched “The Vow”, much more appropriate a story for Valentine’s weekend.
We had watched it before, when it came out but Alex couldn’t remember much of it and it made for a very rare night in as a couple and led to very interesting conversations in the morning.
If you haven’t watched it, I would encourage you to. It is based on a true story and it leaves one feeling hopeful for the future, in spite of trauma and apparently insurmountable obstacles. Love wins, even when it needs to take a new shape and form and start afresh.
On the other hand, I am so glad we didn’t go to watch 50 Shades of Grey together that evening.
I am so glad I didn’t cave in to the pressure to “act cool” as a couple and go and fill our minds and souls with filth.
Cause filth it was, according to hubby’s account this morning.
Here is his view on it, bullet point by bullet point:
1. It is “the most overrated movie” he has ever heard of and watched, which shouldn’t have made it onto the screens.
2. It cannot be classified as an +18,as the sex scenes are not very suggestive. So if you were planning to get all steamy watching other people having sex, don’t bother. His words!
3. “It is not about sexual abuse only”. It is about one human being abusing another very naive and trusting human being without any remorse and heart.
4. Very interesting, as it comes from a bloke’s point of view, the movie opens the discussion about child abuse, as it is revealed that Christian Gray had been used by an older woman from the age of 15 for sexual gratification.
5. “There is nothing romantic about the movie.” The guy treats sex like a cold business, has Ana sign a contract about delivering sex to him under circumstances he chooses only and treats her as an object, not as a partner.
6. The movie ends abruptly, with Ana realising she cannot save Christian from his deviant behaviour. There can’t be redemption, anyway, given the facts the relationship is based on from the start.
Hubby was very disappointed but I am grateful he shared his insight with me.
Have you read the books or watched the movie?
What have you thought?
Mama's Haven 
Yes I have read the books, it’s a trilogy. 🙂
And I LOVE them. 😀
And I LOVED the film, but if you haven’t read the books you wouldn’t know the plot really when watching the film. You wouldn’t know why it abruptly stops, I am pleased to say that the 2nd book starts 3 days after the first one ends and that the trilogy has been put to the screen, the 2nd film 50 Shades Darker if it’s called the same as the book, is coming next year at some point. 😀
It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, the sort of kinkiness that the film revolves around isnt’ for everyone, but it it’s one thing I feel the books and film isn’t it’s abuse.
I always suggest people to watch an E! documentary called “The real 50 shades” it’s about a real life lifestyle similar to what Christian Grey lived in the book before he met Anastasia. 🙂
But like I said, it’s not for everyone. Some people prefer Pride and Prejudice which I also love, but I found the books and the film incredibly refreshing. 🙂
It’s such a tabu subject, I think that’s why there’s so much talk about how horrible it is.
I agree. We all have different tastes. We are all different. I was very surprised to see the stir these books and the movie have created. Even the most cool headed people I know got all heated over it. I don’t know what it is but it has been probably the most commented upon movie in a good wee while.xx
haha yes. I was extremely pleased to read that the 2nd film is coming next year. hehe