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Forget Me Not

This afternoon, we attended the annual Forget Me Not service organised by the Northern Ireland Children’s Hospice for the first time.

It was as emotional and raw and sweet and consoling as we had expected.

We cried and we remembered our precious children and we smiled at the memories we had made with them in the hospice.

Collective grief. Collective mourning. Collective beauty rising from the ashes of loss…

We heard about love that transcends death and time and makes a way for our emotions to find our lost beloved babes.

The pain of grief was compared to the thorn and the forget me not flower.

Grief is and forever will be for every parent and relative present there a painful reminder of what we have lost and also the ultimate indicator of how much we have loved.

Sorrow and sweetness, amalgamated in one.

Pain and endurance, blended together.

Coming together like this was sweet and sour as well.

It was like a soothing balm to be given the chance to remember our precious children in such a beautiful and dignified way. But it was also very painful, the visible reminder of so many young lives lost and so many families devastated by death.

Tomorrow will mark the beginning of the Children’s Hospice Week in the UK.

CHW2015Please take a moment to remember all the precious little lives that ended too early due to illness.

Please consider also donating to a hospice nearby you, so that the wonderful but heartbreaking task of providing palliative care to terminally or very ill children will continue to be provided at the same excellent level.

With my heart full of pride and sorrow at the thought of a little baby boy who has made his way into the light before me, I bid you all good night.

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  1. claremansell says

    A really moving post, I hope the service today helped with your healing process and best of luck in the Bibs.

  2. I am so glad you’ve found another way of commemorating Georgie’s life, joining with others to celebrate and commemorate how valuable life is. I think of Georgie often and hope you are still able to find strength as often as you can through the life he lived. This week, for me, more than ever, the fragility of life is made clear, and taking hope, for us and our children, of the greater good which lives lost offers. My prayers and love are sent to you xx

  3. Reblogged this on My Journey and commented:
    Today was the annual “Forget Me Not Service” of Celebration and Remembrance organised by the N.I. Children’s Hospice.

    Last year I wrote a blog post about this service, which you can read here. It’s my 3rd most popular blog post.

    This year I will let Georgie’s Mum Oana give you her perspective on the event:

  4. awww Oana it sounds like this service certainly was needed to let out more grief. I am sending massive hugs to you my lovely xxx

  5. Oana, I would never wish your pain on anyone. I hope that you have people that surround you with love and understanding throughout the rest of your life.

  6. Oh my goodness, what pain and what a lovely opportunity to come together and remember. I am certainly taking a moment to think of you right now and wishing you all the best.

  7. Cass@FrugalFamily says

    That must have been such a painful but lovely afternoon. I am so sorry for what you’re going through x x

  8. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through but thank goodness for these services of rememberence where you can grieve supported by those around you. I went to a funeral of my friends daughter yesterday and it was heartbreaking for me, never mind her family

  9. I can’t begin to imagine the emotions you must have been feeling, but as much as it must have been heartbreaking, it sounds like it was a lovely remembrance service. Keeping hold of those memories are so important. Sending you big hugs x

  10. emmysmummy says

    What a very moving and well written post
    Thinking of you all and sending love

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