This post was supposed to be about the dark and the positive sides of the grieving process. But I have decided to write instead about the negative people that come into your life during your grieving process, how you identify them, how you mute and eventually remove them from your life, if the negativity becomes unbearable. As you might know, if you have been following my blog for a while, last week I got quite a nasty email from a relative telling me how to grieve, trying to make me feel guilty about the way I choose to remember “my second born” and how my grieving, in all its mess and intensity, is affecting my family. I decided to blog about it in the hope that it will be a lesson, first for the person in case and then, for relatives who are genuinely trying to help a grieving parent but don’t know what are the wrong or the right things to be said or done in such a sensitive situation. I hoped this episode …

Ever since we lost Georgie my emotions have been all over the place. I have days when I am doing well but I have days when all I want to do is pull the covers over my head and hide in bed all day. The latter option is not really a viable choice since I have Emma who needs to get up, dressed, fed and into school before 8.45 every week morning. So I have had to come up with incentives and things that make getting out of bed each morning a bit easier. Here is some things that are working for me at the moment: 1. Choosing what to wear from the night before and always going for bright colours when possible! 2. Going for a treat-size breakfast once in a while 3. On grumpy mornings, choose favourite flavoured coffees or teas that entice and awaken my senses 4. Get myself motivated and ready to face the day with an inspirational quote that reminds me that life is beautiful and worth living 5. Have …

Carly Marie’s prompt for today for our Capture Your Grief journey is season. What season do I associate Georgie with? When I think of Georgie the expression “tender shoot” from Isaiah 53:2 comes to mind: “He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.” The verse is a prophecy and refers to Jesus. But I do think God brings it to my mind as a comfort, as a reminder of the One who died as a Son so I know I have the understanding of the Father. So for me, Georgie is associated with spring. He was young when he passed away, like a wee little lamb. My wee lamb, my sweet boy, my fragile yet so strong in the spirit fighter. I do have this image of him last spring. He was tired and he was sleeping while we went to visit a local farm. For …

This is the song that speaks to my heart most when I think of Georgie. I can only imagine the joy, the giggles, the cuddles, the love…I can only imagine…

I do not have an altar dedicated to Georgie as I simply do not think I need one. I do not worship his existence, nor his passing away but a living God. But I do have a lot of memories of Georgie throughout the house, his memory wall, and two corners dedicated to him. One in the kitchen/living area, where we spend most of the time as a family and one in our bedroom. As the time passes, I expect that I will remove some of the reminders but not all. Georgie will never, ever be removed from our home nor from our memories. Simply because he has been engraved in our hearts and he will remain there forever. In both remembrance corners I have two cards that were sent by his nurses. We got loads of cards but these two are extra special as are from two nurses who were so crucial in his care and his hospital journey. This is what the cards read: “Georgie was a beautiful, beautiful boy with his gorgeous …