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IMAG0237Life as a family of 4

This is us (daddy is taking the picture) on one of our first trips out as a family of 4. He was craving good pub grub so we drove to Carnlough and went for our favourites: Emma, you had pizza and chips, mummy had mussels and daddy had mash and sausages.

Emma, these past two weeks have been difficult for you, sweetheart. You look happy and relaxed here because mummy and daddy are giving you their full attention, even for a few minutes, but baby, you have struggled with being the second fiddle, so to say, and I am guilt-ridden over it. You are awfully good generally but there are moments, like this morning, when mummy’s arms are full with baby when you come clean and tell me: “I am jealous with George, mummy.” I know things will improve, I know your Bica is coming in a week’s time and I will have help and more time to hold you but I feel for you, baby and I wish I could do more. But I can’t at the moment. So I hope you will forgive your mummy and you will not remember this period when you grow up. I hope these days will be replaced in your memory with happier ones, moments that are sure to come.

Georgie, you are teaching me so much about yourself and every day I learn new things about what you prefer and what your personality is. You are a very relaxed boy, as long as your needs are met but boy, oh, boy, you can let us know all right if we have crossed you in any way :-). You love feeding and sleeping at night, too often for mummy’s liking but I am sure things will improve soon :-). But as soon as 5 a.m. hits, you swap from your bed to mummy’s arms and wouldn’t go back in, making the morning routine a bit stressful for me. You like snoozing in mummy’s arms until around 10 when, belly full again, you would go down quite happily in your bed. In the late afternoon you love sleeping in your car seat in the kitchen, as you probably remember the sounds of mummy cooking from when you were in my womb and find them soothing. You are also quite demanding of mummy’s attention in the evening, meaning that your sister has had to have her stories read by daddy in the last two weeks. We need to work on that as well, son, as she misses her mummy and would love to cuddle up to me too at bedtime.

Taking it one day at the time, sometimes one hour at the time, seems the best policy at the moment. Mummy loves you both and does her very best to make you happy, comfortable and safe. Hope you can feel that, my living arrows!

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Word of the week: Adjusting

This will be a short post as baby is napping in the kitchen and will be due a feed soon.

So many things have changed for our wee family in the last two weeks. The new baby has taken over our household and the rest of us have had to adjust to having a brand new member in the family.

Personally, I find change hard and it takes me a while to find my feet. With breastfeeding, playgroup runs, shopping and cooking still my chores, I have felt overwhelmed at times. Plus the baby has had already two growing spurts which left me tired and sleep-deprived.

But help is on the way, my mum will be coming over in a couple of weeks, Emma will be going to a childminder for a couple of days a week from next Monday(which will relieve me of the terrible guilt I have felt over her watching TV all afternoon and playing by herself while I was busy feeding baby, snoozing or just lying in bed, exhausted).

For me, the word of the week is definitely adjusting. It is born in the joy of having a healthy new born, an understanding husband and a sweet daughter who accepts things as they are. But adjusting we will have to do for now. To new routines, to new ways of doing things, to new people in our lives, to the feeling of “not quite enough for now”.

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